Deborah Hassler

Cameron Mills, NY

Deborah Ann Hassler, 65, of Cameron Mills, New York, passed away peacefully at home on May 1, 2026, surrounded by her four children, with her husband holding both of her hands.

Born on December 30, 1960, in Shipley, Bradford, Yorkshire, England, Deborah came to the United States at the age of six aboard the Queen Mary, beginning a life defined by courage, resilience, and adventure. She was the youngest of four children, a joyful and unexpected surprise to her parents a decade after their last child.

At just 15 years old, Deborah met the love of her life, Charles Hassler. Drawn to his rebellious spirit and big heart, she fell for him immediately.

They were married on August 22, 1981, and went on to share nearly 45 years of marriage and more than 50 years side by side, living a life full of adventure and misadventure in equal measure.

Together, they built a bond that was unbreakable and were often described by those who knew them as something like Bonnie and Clyde, and yes, there may have been a story or two to support that.

Deborah was a devoted wife, mother, and grandmother who loved her family fiercely. She raised her four children to be strong, independent, and resilient, instilling in them the same grit and determination that defined her own life.

She was known for her fierce strength, her quiet grace, and her sharp sense of humor, which never left her, even in the hardest moments.

She fought a long and courageous battle with breast cancer, first diagnosed in 2021 and returning in 2026. Through it all, she remained deeply private, incredibly strong, and grounded in love for her family.

Deborah is survived by her beloved husband, Charles Hassler; her children, Chad Hassler and his wife Lauren, Sarah Hassler and her partner Craig, Jacob Hassler and his wife Nicole, and Rachel Nudd and her husband Jon; and her cherished grandchildren, Landon, Chase, Anthony, and Noelle, who brought her immense pride and joy. She is also survived by her siblings, Valerie Bernheiser, Pauline Bernheiser, and Barry Grieve.

Per her wishes, Deborah was cremated. There will be no formal service. Her family plans to scatter her ashes one day alongside her husband’s beneath the sycamore tree they planted together on their property, a place that reflects the life they built side by side.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made in Deborah’s memory to: Ronald McDonald House Charities of Rochester, 333 Westmoreland Dr., Rochester, NY 14620 (585) 442-5437) www.rmhcrochester.org

They lived boldly, loved fiercely, and never once chose the easy road.

Funeral arrangements are in care of the Dagon Funeral Home, 38 Church St., Hornell, NY.

To leave an online condolence or share a memory, visit www.dagonfuneralhome.com.

3 Responses to “Deborah Hassler”

  1. Terry Smith says:

    Charlie, I am so sorry to hear this sad news. She was a keeper! I will pray for you and your family. Terry

  2. Melody Tobias Flynn says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss Charles and Family
    Also to the Grieve Family
    I remember her from church when we were younger
    She was always a sweet girl
    My brother Ralph was a friend of theirs
    Condolences to her whole family

  3. Ralph Tobias says:

    I had the honor of Debbie’s friendship shortly after she arrived in this country. In fact, I was there when she and Charlie started going together. I am shocked to hear of Debbie’s passing. All I can say is God has reclaimed one of his brightest daughters. Although it’s been decades since I saw Debbie and Charlie in person, I’ve kept up on their goings on through Facebook. I can tell they both are loved and cherished by many. Rest well, Debbie, until we meet again.

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